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Tuesday, 16 January 2018

Why It's Okay To Not Know What To Do With Your Life

If you asked 5 year old me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would have said a teacher.
If you asked 10 year old me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would have said a dancer.
If you asked 15 year old me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would have said a fashion buyer.
If you asked 20 year old me what I want to be when I grow up, I wouldn't have an answer.

For ages I beat myself up about not knowing where I want to go with my future. To me it seemed like everyone else had it all planned out - they knew what university course they wanted to do, they knew what career path they wanted to take, they knew all the right steps to make. Then there was little old me, just plodding along. 

Truth is, nobody really knows what the hell they're doing or where they want to go, especially at my age. Around your 18-20's you're pressured with so much;

Are you going to go to university?
If not, what job are you going to get?
What career path are you going to take?
Do you know how to get there?
How are you getting money to support yourself?
What are you going to do after you graduate?

Sometimes it all gets a bit too much. For all of our lives up until now we have been used to education, regime, deadlines and authority, and now we're faced with this whole load of freedom and the majority of us don't know what to do with it. 

But you've got to realise life is not a race and there's not one set of rules.

Some people will have two kids, some people will have 3.
Some people know what they want to do at 15, some won't realise until they're 40.
Some people will get married at 20, some won't ever get married.

Don't judge how well your life is going compared to other people. We all live life at different paces, which makes it so unique. We're not at school anymore, you don't have anyone telling you what to do and when to do it. Take as much time as you need to figure out whatever it is you need to figure out.

Do what makes you happy because the more happiness you bring into your life, the more content you will be with where you are.

Don't have the mindset of, "Oh all my friends have boyfriends, I need to look for one", or "I want X amount of kids by the age of 30!" The best things in life happen unexpectedly and when you're not looking for them. 

Always be content with who you are and what you are doing. It will all work out in the end.

Cloe xox

Jacket - The Couture Club
Trousers - Zara
Shoes - Bershka
Bag - River Island


  1. Love this post! The future is unknown and therefore quite scary, but things will start to fall into place.

    Vanessa x |

    1. Exactly! You just have to believe in yourself! X

  2. this post couldnt have come at a better time for me! i was speaking with my boss the other day about this and saying that i didn't have a clue what i was doing with my life (non-work related haha...otherwise a very strange conversation to have with your employer!) and he said something so simple but actually so true - "no one really knows what they're doing". nd it never really hit me before, but you always think that everyone else is happy and know what they want - but deep down we're all in the exact same boat!

    waffle over lol. you look gorgeous in these pics, girl. cracking post ♥♥

    katie. xx

    1. It's so true! Everyone seems to act like they know what they're doing but noone actually does! I think once you realise that, things seem like less pressure!

      Aw thank you so much lovely! xxx

  3. I've never related to something so much! I'm almost 21 and I've only just figured out what I'm doing with my life. I'm still studying and in education. I wanted to move out by the time I was 22 and have a lush car and be married by 24 x

    1. I'm glad you've figured out which direction you want to take! Keep me updated about the lush car, haha! X

  4. You don't know how much I've been needing this post this week! I'm 20 and really have no idea what I want to do with my life. I beat myself up so much about not knowing and feeling so annoyed that other people have it all worked out whilst I'm struggling. It can be so hard to get out of the comparison trap, but this post has definitely made me feel less alone and more reassured that I still have the time to figure it out. As you said, it's not a race and everyone's journey is different. Thank you for writing this xx

    Lauren |

    1. You're definitely not alone! If you're constantly comparing your life to others then you're not really living your own life! In our 20s we're still so young despite people telling us that we're adults now! Everything will fall in to place hun :) xx

  5. I think it's important to remember that everyone's on their own personal journey and not to succumb under the pressure but remind yourself that nothings permanent, mistakes are what make us better and do what makes you happy regardless of what anyone else tells you xo

  6. This is really great advice. Being open to life's possibilities, even when they don't quite fit your plan, is one of the most important lessons I've learned as an adult I think. Society, family and friends put all sorts of pressures on us, but not everyone has to have the same life! It would be pretty boring if we did! x

    Kate Louise Blogs

    1. You're so right! I've started to realise that the more you start to do things you love, regardless what others think, the happier you are! X

  7. omg! I am feeling this right now! It always seems like everyone else has there shit together! But no one does haha!

    1. It's so true! Secretly everyones having an internal breakdown, haha!

  8. Love this, and I wish I realised this when I was younger! Love your denim jacket by the way the detail on the back is so cute, and the trousers!

    Yasmin Rebecca 💗
    The Sweet Seven Five

    1. Never too late to realise! Thank you lovely x

  9. This is exactly what's been playing on my mind lately. I find that you can't actually plan your life and expect it to go that way. Life doesn't exactly follow plans to a letter. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Lovely post. x

    1. You can try and follow a life plan but need to realise some things might not go to plan! Thank you so much :) x


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